While reading through the posts on another blogging community I am part of I came across this one and I realize that I have had to deal with this phenomenon recently myself. Within the past year I have lost two very dear friends, both of whom were and still are on my friends list on Facebook. I can tell you from first-hand experience that the automated messages that Facebook sometimes generates suggesting that you help the deceased find friends are jarring. I can best describe the feeling as something similar to the feeling get walking down a set of stairs and skipping one on accident, it almost feels like you have to catch yourself to keep from falling. Every time this happens I find myself having to blink away tears. In spite of this I can’t bring myself to remove them from my list of people. Why? It is not because I refuse to accept the fact that they’re dead, I know this. I have shed copious amounts of tears over both of their absences. Having been through the grieving process several times in my life I am aware that at some point the memory of the deceased persons face becomes blurred as though it has been smudged with an eraser and it becomes difficult to remember details. These two people have mads such a difference in my life that I can’t stand eve the thought of forgetting their faces. Their profile pictures are reassuring somehow and for me at least outweighs the discomfort caused by the abrupt reminders of reality that Facebook occasionally sends.
A lot of things have been said about Michael Jackson. I will not comment on that because quite frankly I’m not sure what to think anymore. What I do know is that “Man in the Mirror ” needed to be written and recorded. So many people wait for miracles to happen and it never occurs to them that they can be the change they are waiting for and I think that is just terribly sad. I believe that some famous person once said “be the change you desire to see in the world ” or something very close to that These times are not the easiest on anybody but perhaps if e realized that may be just maybe we were put on this earth to save in big ways and small perhaps the human race would be a little bit better for it.