It’s amazing what or who a song can prompt you to think about. I have also found it to be true that an artist you are pretty sure you can’t stand will often come up with a song that you like. Enter my relationship with Taylor Swift.I like country music just not hers……. usually. Then I heard “Ours”, it’s a sappy us against the world type love song and I fell for it. No surprise when you consider I changed zip codes and states as soon as I could to be with my boyfriend.
What did surprise me is that as I was listening to the song in one tab and perusing Facebookin another I happened to see my friend Sondra’s profile picture and almost cried.For those of you who may be confused let me explain. Sondra was married to my dad’s best friend Kurby, who passed away suddenly several months ago. Seeing her profile picture changed to a solo shot without Kurby was like skipping a step walking down stairs and having to catch myself. At that moment I realized the song applied to them too. There is a line in the song, “…. people throw rocks at the the things that shine….”. I hope no one ever threw rocks at them. They did shine together, brighter than anybody I know
My friend Kurby was a super hero. A normal person’s heart has three valves,his had only two. This can be repaired but for some reason it wasn’t found until after he died . This means my friend was a ticking time bomb his whole life and didn’t know it.Someone with that kind of defect should not be able to run for any distance at all.In spite of this he ran track in high school and after that at least two miles every day serving in the Army. I am amazed that he was here for this long. My mom says that the reason he was able to stay this long was because he was living off “heart” and the love of his friends instead of depending on his physical heart. Seeing how many people spoke up at his service, I believe it.
I never intended to stay for the service last night, apparently life had other plans though and I did. I never intended to speak up either but I did that too. I didn’t cry nearly as much as I originally was afraid I would but it was enough that I didn’t get to say some of what I had planned. When I was little and he and the two other guys used to pick me up off the bus I got asked if they were my older brothers. My answer was “no I should be so lucky.” Being adopted means that your whole life is a testament to the phrase “love is thicker than blood.” That’s what his life and death was, all the people there, ones not tied by legal or blood ties were either his children or siblings as far as his heart was concerned. We should all be so lucky to have that much of our family mourn us. We are all luckier still if we are aware of these ties before we die, everybody should know how important they are to someone’s life. To his daughters, because I’m pretty certain you’ll read this: I watched you grow up, both of you, and as someone else said before me I stand in amazement of the young people you are now and the women you’re growing to be. You are your father’s daughters in all the best ways possible. You girls (and I’m including your mother in this) know how to contact me if you need anything. Remember that you will never be crossing that bridge alone, we are all here to help in any way we possibly can.
I’ll admit today has not been my best day…I’m going to say goodbye to Kurby later and I’m sure I’m gonna cry some but I think I won’t cry half as much as I thought now.This youtube video was posted on face book.
True story One day a son asks his father: “Daddy, will you run the marathon with me?” The father answers yes and both run their first marathon together. One day, the son asks his father if he wants to run the marathon with him again and the father answers yes. They both run the marathon together again. Then one day the son asks his father: “Daddy, will you run the Ironman with me?” (the Ironman is the toughest…it requires a 4km swim, 180km biking and 42km running). The father says yes again. This all sounds easy…but check this video.
Before anyone asks, no, I’m not ok. I will be though. Kurby was never one for tears,I only cried twice today so I think I’m doing ok. He must have decided that the after life had a nasty infestation of Orcs and he JUST COULDN’T sit by and let them stage a coup! Give some good whacks for me.If you can hold the off back up will be there eventually I promise. It’ll take a while but I’ll come running and between us even the Red Names won’t stand a chance.